This Is How It’s Done – Redux

“If we cannot reconcile all opinions, let us endeavor to unite all hearts.” ~Nicholas Vansittart

Four years ago, in anticipation of a victory by Hillary Clinton and the expected resistance by Donald Trump to accepting defeat, I posted a message very similar to the one below.

Though my confidence in a Clinton victory was unwarranted, here we are four years later with a Trump unable to accept Joe Biden’s win. So, with a bit of editing, I once again share these example of men who exhibited grace and civility in the face of painful loss.

After an election season that showed us new lows in human behavior, a similar gesture by Mr. Trump would go far to restore civility and begin to rebuild unity after four years of strife and acrimony. It would also strengthen our precious but weakened democracy.

The likelihood of such a gracious act is about equivalent to me fitting into a size 8. It would require on Trump’s part a temperament able to look beyond his mirror to a nation in pain. It would require that he cared about someone, or something, other than himself.

Still, this reminder of how good men lose graciously may assure us all that goodness will ultimately prevail.

President George H. W. Bush’s letter to President Bill Clinton:

Al Gore’s concession speech to George W. Bush:

Vice President Al Gore Concession Speech, December 13, 2000

Good evening. Just moments ago, I spoke with George W. Bush and congratulated him on becoming the 43rd president of the United States — and I promised him that I wouldn’t call him back this time.

I offered to meet with him as soon as possible so that we can start to heal the divisions of the campaign and the contest through which we just passed.

Almost a century and a half ago, Senator Stephen Douglas told Abraham Lincoln, who had just defeated him for the presidency, “Partisan feeling must yield to patriotism. I’m with you, Mr. President, and God bless you.”

Well, in that same spirit, I say to President-elect Bush that what remains of partisan rancor must now be put aside, and may God bless his stewardship of this country.

Neither he nor I anticipated this long and difficult road. Certainly neither of us wanted it to happen. Yet it came, and now it has ended, resolved, as it must be resolved, through the honored institutions of our democracy.

Over the library of one of our great law schools is inscribed the motto, “Not under man but under God and law.” That’s the ruling principle of American freedom, the source of our democratic liberties. I’ve tried to make it my guide throughout this contest as it has guided America’s deliberations of all the complex issues of the past five weeks.

Now the U.S. Supreme Court has spoken. Let there be no doubt, while I strongly disagree with the court’s decision, I accept it. I accept the finality of this outcome which will be ratified next Monday in the Electoral College. And tonight, for the sake of our unity of the people and the strength of our democracy, I offer my concession.

I also accept my responsibility, which I will discharge unconditionally, to honor the new president elect and do everything possible to help him bring Americans together in fulfillment of the great vision that our Declaration of Independence defines and that our Constitution affirms and defends.

Let me say how grateful I am to all those who supported me and supported the cause for which we have fought. Tipper and I feel a deep gratitude to Joe and Hadassah Lieberman who brought passion and high purpose to our partnership and opened new doors, not just for our campaign but for our country.

This has been an extraordinary election. But in one of God’s unforeseen paths, this belatedly broken impasse can point us all to a new common ground, for its very closeness can serve to remind us that we are one people with a shared history and a shared destiny.

Indeed, that history gives us many examples of contests as hotly debated, as fiercely fought, with their own challenges to the popular will.

Other disputes have dragged on for weeks before reaching resolution. And each time, both the victor and the vanquished have accepted the result peacefully and in the spirit of reconciliation.

So let it be with us. I know that many of my supporters are disappointed. I am too. But our disappointment must be overcome by our love of country.

And I say to our fellow members of the world community, let no one see this contest as a sign of American weakness. The strength of American democracy is shown most clearly through the difficulties it can overcome.

Some have expressed concern that the unusual nature of this election might hamper the next president in the conduct of his office. I do not believe it need be so.

President-elect Bush inherits a nation whose citizens will be ready to assist him in the conduct of his large responsibilities.

I personally will be at his disposal, and I call on all Americans–I particularly urge all who stood with us to unite behind our next president. This is America. Just as we fight hard when the stakes are high, we close ranks and come together when the contest is done.

And while there will be time enough to debate our continuing differences, now is the time to recognize that that which unites us is greater than that which divides us.

While we yet hold and do not yield our opposing beliefs, there is a higher duty than the one we owe to political party. This is America and we put country before party. We will stand together behind our new president.

As for what I’ll do next, I don’t know the answer to that one yet. Like many of you, I’m looking forward to spending the holidays with family and old friends. I know I’ll spend time in Tennessee and mend some fences, literally and figuratively.

Some have asked whether I have any regrets and I do have one regret: that I didn’t get the chance to stay and fight for the American people over the next four years, especially for those who need burdens lifted and barriers removed, especially for those who feel their voices have not been heard. I heard you and I will not forget.

I’ve seen America in this campaign and I like what I see. It’s worth fighting for and that’s a fight I’ll never stop.

As for the battle that ends tonight, I do believe as my father once said, that no matter how hard the loss, defeat might serve as well as victory to shape the soul and let the glory out.

So for me this campaign ends as it began: with the love of Tipper and our family; with faith in God and in the country I have been so proud to serve, from Vietnam to the vice presidency; and with gratitude to our truly tireless campaign staff and volunteers, including all those who worked so hard in Florida for the last 36 days.

Now the political struggle is over and we turn again to the unending struggle for the common good of all Americans and for those multitudes around the world who look to us for leadership in the cause of freedom.

In the words of our great hymn, “America, America”’: “Let us crown thy good with brotherhood, from sea to shining sea.”’

And now, my friends, in a phrase I once addressed to others, it’s time for me to go.

That’s how it’s done….

“Courage. Kindness. Friendship. Character. These are the qualities that define us as human beings, and propel us, on occasion, to greatness.” (R.J. Palacio)

19 thoughts on “This Is How It’s Done – Redux

    • Apparently 70 million people still supported him–even after four years of lies, corruption, bigotry, self-dealing, and greed. That’s what I will never, ever understand, Neil. I’m baffled….

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        • Maybe as we get more distant from this nightmare, some sociologist or psychologist will come up with a clinical explanation for it and give it a scientific label (“trump-induced-psychosis”?). Until then, I guess we must settle for bewilderment. Thanks, Neil.

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  1. I seem to remember Hilary Clinton saying that if Trump won the 2020 election it should not be acknowledged. She never called to congratulate him in 2016. Obama may have given a gracious acknowledgement, but didn’t stop him sniping from the sidelines for four years.

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    • Hi, Mary, actually, Hillary did call Donald Trump to concede the day after the election. I remember wishing she had waited a bit longer. Here’s the A-P article: (there are many others confirming this, even FOX News). As for President Obama, I thought he showed remarkable restraint, not really openly criticizing until quite recently, despite the Administration’s repeated lies about him from day-one. I guess we’re going to have to agree to disagree on that one. But I do appreciate your reading and commenting here. The civility of the blogging community—even when we disagree—is a refreshing change from other social media platforms. I hope you have a lovely day.


  2. My hope, although I know it is a futile one, is that we can at least try to understand why people voted the way they did. Because we can’t really heal if we ignore the fact that this election was very, very close and that closeness will make the losers feel that it was “stolen” from them. (A common theme in recent elections.) I wonder how many of us are courageous enough to have an honest conversation with those who think differently, rather than letting the media tell us what “they” think? I truly believe that would be the first step towards peace and moving on to a better future.

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    • You’re exactly right, Ann. Those conversations leading to understanding are essential if healing and unity are ever to be a possibility. That’s what organizations like Braver Angels are trying to facilitate, but my fear is that only a limited number of people are open to that kind of dialogue. The rest–on both sides–seem to prefer remaining polarized. How do we get people to listen–really listen–to one another? Maybe it’s just two people at a time…. It’s a conundrum…

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      • I know! People have reached the point where they’re actually proud to say they don’t associate with people who think exactly like them. Yet those “others” aren’t going away, so we have to figure out how to get a long and how to recognize common ground. Personally I believe that most people do want the world to be a good place for everyone, they just differ on how to achieve that. I guess all we can do is set the best example we possibly can!

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        • As much as I’d like to blame Trump for bringing us to this point of division and distrust, clearly it’s been simmering for a long time. Maybe his presence in the White House gave people (on all sides) permission to speak and behave in ways they had discreetly disguised up ’til now. Your notion of setting the best example is a wise one.

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